Dating a man with no car
And since women tend to mature faster than men, it’s easy to understand the fairer sex’s frustrations about their dating options.By 30, family-oriented women are getting antsy about finding a guy to settle down with (tick-tock and all that), but a lot of the guys their age aren’t on the same page.But my question remains – am I being ridiculous in expecting a partner who is at least on the SAME financial and career playing field as me? The official beginning of adulthood has always been on a sliding scale.I don't know if that's a good idea or not at the moment. If you're going out, just say "meet me at ____ at ___" show up on time however you get to places, and if nothing else you guys can walk places. It never has been one for myself or for my friends who don't drive - so basically all of 'em.Walking is actually a pretty nice date activity, gives you time to have a conversation and if you cant think of anything to say, just comment on your surroundings. Besides, you can work having no car to your advantage: a walk to and from the place can be romantic (depending on the distance, though) and if walking is out of the question then ordering a cab is definitely a standard move.
I work hard but believe in balance so I love to get out and enjoy spending my hard earned dollar. I think it’s wonderful that you are driven, ambitious, and self-sufficient. The majority of men aren’t slackers and aren’t millionaires. Plus he has student loan debt that he’s not trying to pay off urgently, and his longest job has been only about 6 months so far.
Hell, it’s arguable that being able to legally buy beer actually causes a step down in maturity for a lot of us. The uninterrupted path of school to marriage to family to career has led directly to the land of the mid-life crisis for previous generations.
Nowadays, actual adulthood seems to begin around 30.
I did discuss my concern with him – saying that we could still see each other and get to know one another on a friendship level (nothing physical has happened on our 4 dates) and once he has found his stability in his work/career we can go from there.
He totally freaked out on me and was very passive aggressive – which opened up a whole other can of worms.
I haven’t owned a car since 2014, the year when my Subaru Legacy died a smoky death on the side of the road.