Discouraged by dating
Then if we don’t find anyone or if the people we message don’t message us back, we get discouraged. Set up accounts on multiple sites — wherever you want to cast your net. I stared with three sites, then ended up canceling two and just using one. I made sure I only used it as a tool, and got on when I was only in a good “mood.” But at the end of the day, I prefer to meet people the old-fashioned way, in person.
Instead of holding onto a pole, we must cast a net. I think many make the mistake of fishing instead of casting, spending hours and hours in front of the computer searching for our perfect match like old people in front of a slot machine.
We would also like to encourage him not to give up on finding a mate.
He needs to get out there and do the things he loves because he may end up meeting someone that way.
Only a small few and I didn't consider them very attractive and they didn't want anything to do with me beyond a physical relationship. It's a numbers game, but lately I'm just discourage and kind of tired of the whole process altogether.
For ever 100 emails I sent to women (I try to read their profiles, make friendly convo about their interests, etc), I maybe get 5 emails back. 1 will set up a date and cancel it, THEN disappear.
They’re all different and attract a variety of demographics. See this process as an unfinished painting you don’t want to rush. I spend most of my day in front of the computer, so the last thing I want to do is get back on the computer and scroll through profiles.
We are middle-aged and have been together for two years.
Even though we deactivated our memberships in the dating sites we were part of, we still get emails daily that "'So-and-So' sent you a message." It appears these sites still show our profiles as active, allowing people to try to contact us.
If he covers all his bases and is himself, he'll do OK. DEAR HELPFUL: Many readers wrote to point out that the problem "Dateless" is experiencing could be more about the idiosyncratic subscription rules on some dating websites than about the writer or the women he is contacting.
Other experienced users shared their stories: DEAR ABBY: I can tell "Dateless" why he's not getting "thanks, but no thanks" notes from the women he contacts on the online dating service: Those women are most likely overwhelmed with responses.
If you feel discouraged, desperate, or lonely, skimming strangers who can possibly reject you is probably not going to make you feel any better. Coffee means you can bounce if things aren’t flowing.